Obviously, I love my boyfriend and he makes me happy/stoked.
Last roadtrip/event we went to together was a cluster fuck and we almost broke up.
We are both free spirits and he is super fun.
My boyfriend could hold me back from experiencing everything I feel I need to in such a unique environment - he can be possessive and accusatory.
I could have sex if I wanted to.
I don't want there to be any expectation or pressure for me to have sex if I don't want to - I'm effing dirty and sweaty and vile during camping!?
My boyfriend is a really good dancer and obvi I love dancing + we are both social people and love meeting people.
My boyfriend is deaf which hosts a lot of issues with him feeling alienated from fast paced conversations, getting a temper because he misinterprets things and not being able to experience music the same way I do.
Moral and emotional support.
Sometimes I just need to be introspective and alone especially in crazy conditions.
He can get out of hand with the alcohol and I am not going to deal with it.
He can be unprepared and therefore moochy and I am not dealing with that, either.
Everything else aside, the the whole "being able to hear" thing definitely plays a major roll in music festivals.
I attended 1 out of my 3 Sasquatches with a girlfriend, and the other 2 were much more enjoyable for me. I love not having anyone hold me back from being able to roam free or just go/do whatever the hell I want and for however long I want to. Your cons definitely outweigh the pros so I think you're already pretty sure which direction you're heading in.
I'm kind of in the same boat as Romanticizer. I want to go to Sasquatch and I want to introduce my gf to the awesomeness that is a weekend music festival, but she's not a big fan of doing the ridiculous road trip 2x, or dropping a bunch of money on something that doesn't help us achieve our short-term goals of home ownership and whatnot. She also gets annoyed when surrounded by idiocy and when people stand in front of her at concerts, so I just can't see her enjoying the fest as much as I will. She's a big music fan, and I can tell that she wants to go but is hesitant because she would be completely out of her comfort zone., which is completely understandable.
If it was right in our own backyard (i.e. if we lived in Seattle) I don't think it would be as big a deal, but spending an entire day driving just to camp at "district 9" as someone so eloquently put it just doesn't seem like her cup of tea.
That said, if she wants to go and can get time off we'll make it happen and make it work.
Music fests can be pretty trying at times for relationships. It's a huge help if your signiDr. Garbanzoant other either gets along with other people you are going with or is able to make friends on their own. That way you dont need to feel like you have to be with them 24/7. The biggest problem I had taking my last girlfriend was the ride there. Once we got there and met up with everyone and started having a good time things went pretty smoothly. The not being able to hear thing does seem like it could be a pretty huge barrier between him and a good time though.
That being said I bought my girlfriend a ticket to her first sasquatch for xmas so for me the pros outweight the cons.
Last Edit: Dec 19, 2011 16:19:43 GMT -5 by jeffers
I brought it up with him a couple months ago but I'm hoping if I don't say anything he will forget about it and it won't be awkward explaining why it's not a good idea even though I love him.
I'm going to univitedly join in here and say that this doesn't sound like a good idea. Avoiding the issue seems to work like a charm until that ol' avoidance train reaches the end of the line. I feel your guy will have enough sense to put the facts together and realize that you bought your ticket back in February, in a sort of behind his back manner, yet you have not said a word about it for all those months in between the fest. Or if you are just hoping that it sells out before he can get a ticket I imagine the dots can be connected quite clearly when you happen to have a ticket yourself.
I'm just sayin' that it may feel sometimes like it is the right decision to do small time lying or deceiving toward a person in order to "spare" their feelings and make things easier overall, but really these choices are only for our own benefit of not wanting to address the issue or face confrontation. It can be seen as hurtful by the other person. Just throwing it out there.